Struggling with a broken heart over a failed relationship is one of the hardest challenges a person can face. The wound may feel like physical pain, as though your heart physically aches–no wonder it’s described as being “heartsick.”
One of the primary fears that plagues a brokenhearted person is that they will never find this kind of love again. This pain often motivates propels them to desperately hold on.
Also there is denial. In this scenario the brokenhearted person cannot bear to accept the relationship is over, even if little to no interest is shown on the other side.
A heartsick person will keep a dead or dying relationship alive by re-living the sweet moments and repeating proclamations of “initial” mutual feelings over and over in their mind. If there was intimacy involved there is an even deeper attachment.
The thought of their ex-partner sharing similar experiences with another increases efforts to win back affections. It can cause the brokenhearted person to compromise standards, even acting obsessively. “It’s because I love them,” they exclaim, justifying the behavior as an act of true love. They feel desperately stuck, holding out hope of reconciliation.
If you are reading this while currently in a season of heartbreak, you probably can relate to some of the anguish described. You must know that you are not alone. This is a very real heartache, and it requires strength and wisdom from the Lord to get through.
Please remember that you are the same person your ex-partner was initially enamored with. Just because they have moved on does not make you less valuable. A break-up naturally causes havoc to the human psyche. It makes us feel a myriad of negative and discouraging feelings about ourselves. These feelings and emotions may feel very strong, but are temporary and do not define who we are. Join us in navigating this difficult season of emotional upheaval. Faith-Based-Emotinal-Sobriety