Insecurity is the unsettling feeling of being unsure and lacking self-confidence. It can stem from a variety of sources—difficult upbringings, traumatic experiences, mistreatment, personal fears, or even the process of aging. These feelings can be constant or come in waves, leaving a person vulnerable to doubts and uncertainties. For instance, they may cause individuals to shut others out, protecting themselves from potential rejection, or conversely, to overcompensate by working tirelessly for acceptance.

People who struggle with insecurity often find themselves in unhealthy situations due to faulty discernment. Looking back, they may realize that insecurity influenced many of their past choices, particularly in friendships or relationships. These individuals may notice a pattern of poor decisions based on an inability to accurately assess situations or a tendency to interpret circumstances through a lens of self-doubt.

Consider two different scenarios that highlight how insecurity can manifest. In the first, Sally feels threatened by a woman talking to her boyfriend. Her insecurity causes her to jump to conclusions and accuse the woman without understanding the full context. This rash action leads to damaged relationships and a sense of turmoil that she didn’t foresee.

On the other hand, in another scenario, Sally sees the same woman talking to her boyfriend but, consumed by insecurity, does not address the situation and instead internalizes the problem. She mistakenly believes she’s not good enough and works even harder to earn his affection, despite the obvious red flags. Eventually, her boyfriend leaves her for the other woman, leaving Sally to reflect on how it all went wrong. 

Both of these scenarios, though different in response, stem from the same root cause—deep insecurity.

Insecurity doesn’t just distort how a person perceives others; it can also cloud how they see themselves. Those struggling with insecurity may grapple with feelings of worth, sometimes to an extreme degree. It may show up in choices related to neglect of self-care. Or, on the flip side, insecurity may create an over-focus—a striving for perfection or success to mask the fear of inadequacy.

The path to overcoming insecurity begins by shifting our lens to a higher value system: God’s perception of us. True security comes not from external validation or fleeting accomplishments but from understanding our worth in God’s eyes. By immersing ourselves in His truth and grounding our self-worth in His love, we begin to build stronger, healthier boundaries. This process requires time, intentional effort, and a reprogramming of the thoughts that perpetuate insecurity—with God’s powerful assurance.

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The following touch on emotions common to our humanity. Insecurity, Discouragement, Loneliness, Anxiety, Inadequacy, Inferiority, Depression, Suicidal Thoughts, Approval Seeking, Obsession, Neediness, Identity Confusion, Feeling Second Best, and other areas of emotional struggle.