Loneliness is often described as a sadness resulting from isolation or lack of companionship. Yet, isn’t it interesting that many people feel lonely even when they are not alone? That’s because feeling isolated often comes from something other than the absence of people.
Although there is loneliness due to lack of family and friends, more often, loneliness is a state of the heart. Loneliness occurs when a person feels there is no one in their life who is truly like minded with whom they are able to connect. This is the deeper issue of the heart for a lonely person.
Because true heart connections can remain so elusive even when surrounded by community, lonely people often seek to fill this void with vain comforts. Sadly, these vain comforts often leave the heart feeling twice as empty and twice as isolated.
These temporary comforts can be anything from TV, social media binging, workaholism, and over eating eating to more harmful behaviors such as drug and alcohol use or unhealthy physical encounters. This is the nature of the human spirit: When there is a demand (the gap of loneliness) we seek to supply it–often with a substitute companionship that offers temporary comfort.
The human heart, as Scripture tells us, can easily deceive itself. In the Christian community, we must be careful because in a very similar way we are often compelled to satisfy this loneliness with pious activities. We come and go in our moral efforts and never really make any true connections. Filling our plates with religious services will not reach the recesses of loneliness. Even though some of these things are good–pursuit of these things will often propel us even further into discouragement and isolation if we haven’t dealt first with the root cause of loneliness.
Seeing the lonely state of the heart as a blessing in disguise can help. Loneliness may be the divine opportunity God allows to draw us into a deeper level with Himself. Christ is the only fountain that can fill our lonely and thirsty souls in a way that doesn’t keep it aching and unfulfilled. Clear your schedule of any vain comforts for the moment and ask the Lord to reveal His purpose for you in this season of loneliness. Take note of any thing He impresses on your heart. Maybe its joining a support group, perhaps its visiting a bible study or church.
Recognizing our efforts to fill the void of loneliness with temporary comforts that are not working is a good starting point. He may be removing unwanted distractions on your path. You can be sure that whatever means he uses (support group, bible study, Church, etc.) it will be to draw you closer to Him. Here at the the true well of companionship, the lonely heart will thrive finding its truest connection, as well as others who are like minded.
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