Bullying Awareness: “Misuse of Loyalty”
Bullies often enlist loyalty not as a virtue, but as a weapon. You might frequently hear the word loyalty in their vocabulary, though rarely in its true spirit. It’s often disguised in seemingly harmless questions like, “Are you with me?”, “Can I count on you?”, or “Do I have your support?”—phrases designed to foster a sense of camaraderie. But with a bully, there’s usually a hidden agenda: loyalty becomes a tool to divide, to pit people against someone or something.
Bullies rely on subtle, manipulative tactics.
Recognizing the emotional motivation behind bullying is the first step to ending it.
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It’s so true that bullies enlist and use loyalty for their benefit. In the workplace, a “Boss Bully” can have one or two loyal followers (and the other employees know who they are!). The boss bully uses these people to get information from other employees or sources because the bully knows that s/he doesn’t have the relationship since they haven’t proven themselves trustworthy, competent, dependable, or supportive. Be careful what you share with the loyal follower (even though they totally agree with your assessment!). They feel a bit more powerful or important being able to report back or tattle tale to the boss!
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Very wise words!! Thank you Linda for sharing! Yes, it’s so important to be careful who we confide in when a bullying setting is at play. Even the most well intentioned people can leverage a position with a bully by using confidences that have been shared. I agree, if possible to talk/confide with people outside the bullying setting. This helps with objectivity and confidentialiy. SO GOOD!!
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